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Her Perspective; Waist beads, a sex toy in the bed room.

Updated: May 13, 2022

You see how curious you are to read because you saw the sex toy? Hahah... Gotcha yah but yes it is, so keep reading to know why this is.. Did you miss me? I'm sure I did. Let's get right into it.

I wrote my first blog a few weeks ago, and I must admit, I was pleasantly pleased by the response. Thank you to everyone who took the time to read this. One thing is certain: this will be an exciting voyage. I have no clue where it will lead us, but one thing is certain: it will be entertaining, instructive, and insightful.

We may have to unlearn and relearn new thoughts and beliefs about waist beads as time goes on, but that's the point. So, buckle up, because we're about to take a plunge. I wanted to know what Ghanaian women thought about waist beads this week, know about their first encounter, how it makes them feel, and what the Ghanaian woman's waist beads were formerly. I had some thought-provoking entries.

To begin with, nearly 98 percent of those who responded stated they had experienced it as a child. It's understandable since they watched their mothers and grandmothers wearing them. Isn't it true that children physically imitate what they see adults do? 95% said it made them feel beautiful, confidence and more in tune with their femininity. A link to the live conversation on IG

One woman even referred to her waist beads as a sex toy, since 97 percent stated it increased closeness with her partner. The mere sight of the beads, according to one entry, was enough to turn her partner on. Isn't it fascinating? They also mentioned it as a tool for weight management, which is one of the most common justifications for wearing waist beads. The idea of utilizing waist beads for weight loss was primarily reserved for babies until recently. Weight beads were employed by the "old masters," as I affectionately referred to them, to determine whether or not a baby was gaining weight. It was primarily used for newborns and has become highly popular among "weight watchers." 2% answered they had never heard of waist bead and had no idea what it was. That surprised me, but it wasn't out of the ordinary. There are many things that the majority of us are unaware of, and that is just acceptable. Based on my research, I can deduce that most Ghanaian women enjoy wearing waist beads. Their primary motivation for wearing it is not for its sexual overtones, but rather for its aesthetic value and how it makes them feel. For most Ghanaian women, the role of waist beads in sex seems to comes bottom on the list.

These are the basic facts regarding waist beads that most people are aware of. The indigenous Ghanaian woman, on the other hand, has some unique uses for beads. Waist beads could be passed down from generation to generation as an heirloom. I recently had the pleasure of listening to a client describe how she tossed away a sack of waist beads containing gold nuggets. She was afraid that the waist adornment jewelry included "witchcraft or voodoo." These two issues are major worries in our region of the planet.

I across an elderly woman sometime back who had wrapped beads around her knee. When I asked why she was doing it, she told me it helped her with the pain she was having. Waist beads do, in fact, play a significant role in our visual depiction as African women.

We can state that the Ghanaian woman, based on what has been addressed thus far, that wear and uses the waist beads for different reasons and purposes. These include.


  1. Waist beads can be used as a tool or gauge to help children and adults maintain their weight.

  2. It helps women feel more feminine and enhances their them their confidence.

  3. Waist beads stimulate the visual senses of the male thus enhancing intimacy, particularly for the Ghanaian men. It's even been called a sex toy.

  4. When knotted around the painful location, it can be used like a band aid to ease pain.

  5. It might be passed down from generation to generation as an heirloom.

In Ghanaian slang, it is said that if a loved one, especially your husband, buys it for you, the name is TOHMA and when you buy it yourself it it called awhenie. They both mean beads.

Do you have a tradition of wearing waist beads in your culture? And what does it all mean? I'd want to hear what you have to say.


Happy Beading.


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