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A couple of weeks ago, I met a young man, who used to assist me with chores around the house. The last time I saw him, he was about half feet taller than I was and was almost completing his senior high education. This time around he had grown into a fine young man. Almost 6 feet tall. I know Gabriel as a hard-working deaf boy who assisted people around the neighborhood with chores. This was to aid his mum in catering to his needs in school. After exchanging pleasantries, I inquired about his admission and he informed me he was not going to apply for college because he didn’t do well in one of his core subjects. The other reason was that an uncle said he should learn a skill. When I asked what he wanted to do, he said he wanted to learn the skill. What about school? I inquired. He kept smiling shyly. At that moment, I observed two (2) things.

Don’t get me wrong. Learning to have a skill in a particular field is great. My only concern was, his inability to see beyond the skill he was going to learn.

To have a vision, you need to surround yourself with the right people and be in the right environment. I couldn’t agree less with Jim Rohn when he said we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. These two factors are so powerful they have the potential to utter the course of your life, your beliefs, and your ability to make the right decision for yourself. Imagine Gabriel never comes into contact with someone who believes it is possible to re-sit for his paper whiles working.

To him, once he didn’t make the cut, that was it for him. How far he could go was dependent on his immediate results. He was also living within the mental boundaries of his uncle and his environment. His uncle, I believe means well to him but you can only go as far as you can see. There was a point in my life where I couldn’t see beyond a day. I accepted everything that life threw at me. If unhappiness and frustration were a person it would have been me at that time.

Just as I was stuck and couldn’t see beyond where I was, Gabriel couldn’t see beyond what was suggested to him by his uncle and what his environment offered based on his current circumstances.

When I conceived the idea to start Taltohma. I discussed it with someone I looked up to. He sarcastically asked, do people still wear waist beads in this day and age? It’s been almost 6 years and individuals like you still wear waist beads and even read blogs about them. Wink. Sometimes you may be in a good environment with good people but it doesn’t mean it is the right environment for your vision. We are all unique individuals with different abilities and capabilities. It is our responsibility to figure out the vision we have for our lives. If you don’t, you may spend your entire life leaving out other people’s ideas of what they think your life should be.

As the year has begun and some of us are still making preparation for what we intend to do for the year, I entreat you to be conscious and intentional about the kind of people you choose to associate yourself with and your environment. These two factors can greatly impact how big or small your vision becomes.

And now to answer the question, what do I see? I see you thriving and not limiting yourself this year. I see you become intentional about individuals and your environment. Most importantly I see you ordering a bunch of pretty customized waist beads from TalTOHMA. Wink!!!


Happy beading


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